Suppose you get stuck in an exp group and when someone dies because you were too busy area refreshing everyone and you're getting the blame, there's some things you should do.
First of all, the group should have more than one healer for these situations so nobody dies and everyone could be area refreshed. Let's say though for some reason there's only one and you're the lucky duck on the leash. If you have other group members spamming you "area! area! area!", ignore them unless that's what the leader wants you to do. Of course, this all depends on your regen, your sets, and your mana and everything to see how effective you would be but even if you have max stats and the best regen, if your group leader says don't do it, don't do it. You're basically listening to the leader, unless you are the leader.
If you feel you have enough mana and you'll be fine in case someone gets hurt, go for it but don't oblige the spammy requests. It will just encourage more.
Now below, I'll give you some situations I have personally been in, and some ways to handle it if people give you a hard time.
Situation One: Your group is regenning after running a particularly difficult area and the leader wants it sped up, so she asks you to cast 'haven', a spell you don't know yet due to your stats being too low. While the group leader doesn't react, the other group members start saying you're useless and one even suggests kicking you out of the group. Here are some things you can do:
- Just leave if they're going to be disrespectful.
- If it's just one person doing it, get the group leader to help you shut him up or kick him out. If he won't, insist on it or you'll leave. Don't worry about leaving a group, you'll have a valid reason, and you can always run exp with someone else.
- Cave in like a wimp and apologize. If you do this, you'll be easy to walk on so DON'T DO IT. Leaving is NOT A WIMP thing to do though.
- Ignore them. They're not your leader. A healer's job is to make sure everyone stays alive over anything else.
- If you have enough mana for even one area after healing the person, THEN area. Never do it first if there's someone who's about to die. They put their trust in you.
- It's okay if they want to try something cool, just ensure that the leader agrees and remember that the tank takes priority.
- A good rule of thumb to use as the order of priority when it comes to spelling someone up: Tank > Hitters > Blasters > Healers > self. If you do not spell your tank up first, he dies and everyone else is fair game to be killed.